pregnancy

Birth plan

IMG_6523 With my due date two weeks away (yay!!), a lot of people have been asking me about my birth plan and how I was planning the big day so I decided to finally sit down and write it out, so here’s my plan:

  1. Deliver a healthy baby, with as little stress on the baby as possible

Yup, that’s it.  That’s my birth plan.  I will be delivering in a hospital, and I will be getting an epidural if I am able to and other than that, I’m going to go with the flow and face any issues or obstacles as/if they come up. I learned early on in my pregnancy to give up control over a lot of things.  I thought that I would be able to maintain some sort of control over my life and body during my pregnancy but I soon realized I had very little control over even the simplest of things.  I had no control over how much weight I would gain, how much energy I would have, what I could or couldn’t eat, what my sleep would be like, how my body would change, or anything really.  I learned to take things day by day, and hour by hour, and learned to let go and just go with the flow.  I found that I actually felt so much better once I was able to do that, and found my stress and anxiety literally melted away and I was able to enjoy my pregnancy journey so much more. So when it came time to thinking about my birth plan, I realized that the most important thing to me was the health and safety of my baby, and that the birth was about my baby and not about me, or my husband.  It wasn’t about what I wanted to get out of the experience, or what I thought I needed to feel or experience as a woman because it all has been, and will continue to be, an incredible and unique experience no matter how the birth itself happens.  Of course it would be amazing to be in labor for just a couple of hours, without any pain or meds, and get him out with just a few pushes, but the chances of that happening are pretty slim to none so I just need to be realistic and expect the unexpected.  I just want to make sure that my boy is delivered in whatever way is best and easiest for him, and am not going to force any of my expectations during the birth process because honestly, anything can happen and I accept that. I think that the sooner we learn to give up having absolute control the better.  We aren’t going to be able to control our pregnancies, births, husbands, babies or children 100% no matter what, and the sooner we accept that the less stress and pressure we will feel in the long-run. I get that a lot of women won’t agree with my plan and that’s fine.  No two women, pregnancies, births or babies are the same and we are all going to have our own unique journey, and I just wish for all of us that we enjoy this miraculous experience as much as we can, no matter how it happens. However, if you are looking for a detailed birth plan template, this one from the Bump is a great one that I found that covers a lot of bases without being too overwhelming.

Boy’s Baby Shower in San Diego

With my baby boy due next month, I was lucky enough to be showered with so much love at my baby shower last week!!  Surrounded by family and friends, I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect day and felt so blessed to have the love and support of so many people that are close to me, and I can’t wait for Enzo to arrive next month to meet them all!!

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I didn’t want a “theme” for my shower per se, so everything was kept really simple and elegant, with little touches of blue everywhere!

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The table decorations were simple and elegant and all the guest got to take home these cute mugs filled with chocolates and a blue Christmas ornament!

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Guests were able to choose between a soup and a salad to start with, followed by a variety of entree options which ranged from different pastas, chicken, fish and more, but we all started out with margherita pizzas…my fav!

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Why have just one cake when you can have two??  The cake above is the black and white cake from Michele Coulon is a rich and indulgent combo of vanilla and chocolate, while the cake below is the Passion Fruit Ricotta cake from Extraordinary Desserts which is an amazing light option for fruit lovers.

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So thankful for my besties for planning such a beautiful shower for me!

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With a view like this as a backdrop, it really doesn’t get much better than this!

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Me and my baby daddy!

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Location:  Il Fornaio, Del Mar 

Cakes:  Michelle Coulon Dessertier and Extraordinary Desserts

Dress:  Halston Heritage (on sale now!!)

Hair: Drybar

Pregnant Holiday Outfit

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I love getting dressed up but in my daily life there aren’t that many occasions to get decked out so when the holidays roll around I get super excited to whip out my party dresses and get all dolled up for parties and different events.  Since I’m preggers this year, it’s def been a bit of a challenge finding cute holiday outfits to fit my growing bump.

Honestly, I’ve found that most maternity wear is super heinous, not flattering, and way overpriced for stuff you’re only going to wear a couple of times, so I’ve just been buying stuff from regular stores in a size bigger that I’ll be able to wear post-preganancy as well.  Forever 21 has been a favorite place for me to shop during my pregnancy, and this whole outfit is from there.

The faux fur jacket can be easily dressed up like I did with this dress, or dressed down with a pair of jeans and boots, and this dress is a looser, boxier cut that will totally work post-preganancy and would even be great for a 20’s flapper/Great Gatsby themed costume as well!

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Dress, Forever 21 (not available online, similar here, here, and here)

Jacket, Forever 21

Pregnancy Weight Gain

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As a first time mom, my main focus during my pregnancy is to make sure that my baby is healthy and safe, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t the least bit concerned about how much weight I was going to gain as well.  I was naive enough to think that I would be able to control the amount of weight that I would gain and I thought that if I ate well and worked out regularly there was no way that I’d be packing on a ton of weight…ummm yeah, not quite.

I soon learned that I had NO control over my body and the pounds that I was going to gain.  I’m one of those people that weighs themselves everyday, not because I’m obsessed but just because it makes me feel accountable, and there were many times that I would step on the scale throughout my pregnancy and freak the f**k out when I saw the number climb up.

I just didn’t get how I was gaining so much weight, even though I wasn’t eating that much differently than normal, and was still working out 4-5 days a week.  There were days where I would step off the scale on the brink of tears feeling frustrated and like a fat ass, and I would cry to my husband about it and he would look at me like I was crazy and say “good, I’m glad you’re gaining weight, it means that you and the baby are healthy”.

I literally wanted to strangle him when he said that to me, but then I realized that he was right.  I was gaining the right amount of weight, and whatever weight I gained was going to be the right amount for me to have a healthy baby.  So I’ve switched my mentality – all of the weight I am gaining is good weight that I need to gain to ensure that I have a healthy pregnancy and baby, and that’s what matters, nothing else.

That being said, I still wanted to know what the recommended weight gain was during pregnancy, and where it comes from, so here’s a simple breakdown for you.

The weight gain recommendations which are based on your pre-pregnancy weight and BMI (body mass index that you can calculate here):

  • If you were underweight (BMI under 18.5)  you should gain 28-40 lbs.
  • If you were in the normal range (BMI between 18.5 – 24.9) you should gain 25-35 lbs.
  • If you were overweight (BMI between 25 to 29.9) you should gain 15-25 lbs.
  • If you were obese (BMI higher than 30) you should gain 11-20 lbs.
  • If you’re having twins and were in the normal range 37-54 lbs., overweight range 31-50 lbs. and obese, 25-42 lbs.

How do those pounds add up?  We know it’s not all baby and burgers, so here’s a breakdown of those extra pounds:

  • Baby:  7-8 lbs.
  • Placenta: 2-3 lbs.
  • Amniotic fluid:  2-3 lbs.
  • Breast tissue:  2-3 lbs.
  • Body fluid (water): 2-4 lbs.
  • Blood supply: 4 lbs.
  • Uterus: 2-5 lbs.
  • Stored fat (needed for delivery/breastfeeding): 5-9 lbs.
  • Total:  25-35 lbs.

In the first trimester you’re supposed to gain 1-5 lbs., and then each week after you should be gaining about a pound a week.  I didn’t gain a pound each week – I would plateau for a few weeks and step on the scale one day and BOOM would be 2-4 pounds heavier than I was the day before, and then would plateau again for the next couple of weeks and wouldn’t gain any weight, but everyone is different in how they gain, and when they gain so don’t compare yourself to anyone else because you’ll just drive yourself crazy.

So now that we’ve gone over the weight gain, how about the weight loss post-pregnancy?  The average post-birth weight loss immediately following delivery is around 12 lbs., and in the next couple of weeks after that you’ll lose even more (especially if you’re breastfeeding) and the average weight loss 2 weeks post-partum is about 20 lbs., which is kind of amazing if you think about it!

We’ve just got to remember that it took 9 months to put on the weight, and it’s not going to come off immediately and that’s okay.  Of course it’s easy for me to say this now as I’m still pregnant, and I’m sure I’ll feel differently when I’m stuck at that “I can’t get these last 10 lbs off” stage, but I guess I’ll just have to wait until I get there and complain to you guys about it then 🙂

 

Get Your Glow On: The Best Products for Glowing Skin

Get Your Glow On!
As women, we're used to faking lots of things: smiles, cries, tans, orgasms, etc. and now that I'm pregnant I've found a new thing to fake . . . my pregnancy glow.

Pregnant or not, what women doesn’t want luminous, glowing skin? I’ve had facials, peels, IPL, and have tried tons of different Skincare products to try to achieve that natural glow, but honestly none of them have given me the kind of natural glow where I could just walk out of the door without any makeup feeling like my skin looked amazing. Now that I’m pregnant, I was hoping it was my time to shine but I never got that pregnancy glow that women rave about so I’ve taken matters into my own hands and have just been faking it.

I’ve gotten tons of compliments about how I’m glowing lately, and I let people think it’s that natural preggo glow, but here’s what I’ve really been using to fake it:

Nars, The Multiple:  This is the best stick option available in a variety of colors that you can use on your eyes, cheeks or lips anytime you need a pop of shimmery color.

  • Hourglass Ambient Lighting Palette:  You know how certain light makes your skin look absolutely amazing?  Well this trio of powders is meant to do just that – it diffuses and softens the way that light reflects on your skin so no matter what light you’re in, you’re always going to be camera-ready.
  • Benefit, High Beam:  If a soft, pink, dewy look is what you want, this is what will give it to you.
  • Bobbi Brown, Shimmer Brick:  Bronzed Goddess anyone?
  • YSL, Touche Eclat:  If you buy only one product, this is it.  No sleep, no problem – this magic wand erases those dreaded under-eye black circles and instantly brightens your entire complexion.
  • Josie Maran, Argan Illuminizer:  One of my favorite natural brands, a bit of this mixed in with your foundation will give your skin a mega-glow that will last all day long.