With my due date two weeks away (yay!!), a lot of people have been asking me about my birth plan and how I was planning the big day so I decided to finally sit down and write it out, so here’s my plan:
- Deliver a healthy baby, with as little stress on the baby as possible
Yup, that’s it. That’s my birth plan. I will be delivering in a hospital, and I will be getting an epidural if I am able to and other than that, I’m going to go with the flow and face any issues or obstacles as/if they come up. I learned early on in my pregnancy to give up control over a lot of things. I thought that I would be able to maintain some sort of control over my life and body during my pregnancy but I soon realized I had very little control over even the simplest of things. I had no control over how much weight I would gain, how much energy I would have, what I could or couldn’t eat, what my sleep would be like, how my body would change, or anything really. I learned to take things day by day, and hour by hour, and learned to let go and just go with the flow. I found that I actually felt so much better once I was able to do that, and found my stress and anxiety literally melted away and I was able to enjoy my pregnancy journey so much more. So when it came time to thinking about my birth plan, I realized that the most important thing to me was the health and safety of my baby, and that the birth was about my baby and not about me, or my husband. It wasn’t about what I wanted to get out of the experience, or what I thought I needed to feel or experience as a woman because it all has been, and will continue to be, an incredible and unique experience no matter how the birth itself happens. Of course it would be amazing to be in labor for just a couple of hours, without any pain or meds, and get him out with just a few pushes, but the chances of that happening are pretty slim to none so I just need to be realistic and expect the unexpected. I just want to make sure that my boy is delivered in whatever way is best and easiest for him, and am not going to force any of my expectations during the birth process because honestly, anything can happen and I accept that. I think that the sooner we learn to give up having absolute control the better. We aren’t going to be able to control our pregnancies, births, husbands, babies or children 100% no matter what, and the sooner we accept that the less stress and pressure we will feel in the long-run. I get that a lot of women won’t agree with my plan and that’s fine. No two women, pregnancies, births or babies are the same and we are all going to have our own unique journey, and I just wish for all of us that we enjoy this miraculous experience as much as we can, no matter how it happens. However, if you are looking for a detailed birth plan template, this one from the Bump is a great one that I found that covers a lot of bases without being too overwhelming.